I am homesick.
I am homesick for the ocean.
I am homesick for the mountains.
I am homesick for the smell of moss, wet earth and towering Douglas Fir trees.
I am homesick for special people.
And a large part of me is homesick for what was.
It seems idyllic until I really stop to think about how missing past relationships and life-places has stunted my current growth. Sometimes, what you miss doesn't exist any more. It is what was that you are really longing for. The place each relationship held in your life and heart; what they meant to you when you were close to them.
Is it fair to miss those times? Yes. Is it fair to let them trip you up? No.
You can not drive forward while looking into your rearview mirror.
There is some missing that I am doing that is not fair. Not fair to me. Not fair to the persons involved.
"Sometimes, it is not the person you miss, but the feelings and moments you had when you were with them." I don't know whom the quote is credited but I thank my dear friend for sending it to me. It helped me clarify what I was really missing. I am missing some feelings and moments. Some very precious, special, life changing and defining moments.
I miss them and need to let that be it.
No more longing for what was. What was happened, exactly when it needed to. No good comes from forcing it into my future and trying to repeat it. I need to value it, even cherish it, but also, let it go. Those places, times, people made me who I am now. They will even propel me into my future. If. If I let them stay right where they were.
I am homesick.
But I am also home. That really is...well, that is just so darn cool.
"And if you don't know what to make of this, then we will not relate."
A Pretty Song to Convey
Thursday, January 21, 2016
Sunday, January 10, 2016
The Process of Peace
Peace is a process.
Peace does not just happen.
I mean, yes, sometimes we pray and feel God's peace settle over us in that moment. His grace extending us comfort at that specific time. I have certainly experienced those moments.
But the majority of life is us learning the process of peace. The process of fighting the lies and fears in your head with: trust in God, what He said, and who He is.
That means Bible verses. That means hard mental battles that can last for a moment or for many many days, years, even a lifetime. That means repetition and memory; belief in who God is. It means sweating it out, so to speak, in the heat of your abounding fear. In the little battles. The tiny ones, like having a rash and letting your mind wander. As well as in the gigantic battles that apply stress to your very core. The process of hearing the lie, recognizing its falsehood, saying 'no' to all the what ifs that spring on you, and leaning on What God has said. He will never forsake you. He will never leave you. He has good planned for us*.... Specific Bible verses are the weapons against the lies. The proof of who God is, has been, in your own life & the lives of others, in the Bible, can also dispel the fears. God is good. God is sovereign. God is bigger.
This not new news. Ah, it is so old. Yet can seem so tedious and so basic that often times I forget its power. Then once I remember I feel shame and guilt that I forgot, neglected the tools I have been given. I can even allow that shame to fester & distract me. But that very shame is a lie. God does NOT scoff* at a heart that has submitted, a mind that is fighting against the lies. No!
With all my heart I hope, that as I go through life, faithfully falling on these verses & truths in times of fear, that it will become more automatic. My natural process instead of my current process. (Lie, fear, escalation, emotionally falling apart, remembering God, speaking His truths, turning them into a mantra in my head, & embracing the subsequent peace.)
Perhaps this peace process is similar to making a candle. Dipping a wick into hot melted wax, pulling it up to let it dry then dipping it back again. Over and over and over and over and over and...ha you get the picture. Slowly building bayer after layer of protection. The wick being more and more protected. Not that I will ever on this earth be immune to the lies & the fear I can be hit with. A candle can be melted or cut right to the core. But after years of practice I hope that my first response will be faith and trust instead of panic & fear.
That being said...I desperately need to go study my Bible! Get some new tools in this place!
My heart and prayers with you all. We can do this, helping each other & we will meet with success because of Who we lean upon.
"A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." Ecclesiastes 4:12
*
Deuteronomy 31:6
Jeremiah 29:11-12
Matthew 5:3-12
1 Corinthians 1:27
Peace does not just happen.
I mean, yes, sometimes we pray and feel God's peace settle over us in that moment. His grace extending us comfort at that specific time. I have certainly experienced those moments.
But the majority of life is us learning the process of peace. The process of fighting the lies and fears in your head with: trust in God, what He said, and who He is.
That means Bible verses. That means hard mental battles that can last for a moment or for many many days, years, even a lifetime. That means repetition and memory; belief in who God is. It means sweating it out, so to speak, in the heat of your abounding fear. In the little battles. The tiny ones, like having a rash and letting your mind wander. As well as in the gigantic battles that apply stress to your very core. The process of hearing the lie, recognizing its falsehood, saying 'no' to all the what ifs that spring on you, and leaning on What God has said. He will never forsake you. He will never leave you. He has good planned for us*.... Specific Bible verses are the weapons against the lies. The proof of who God is, has been, in your own life & the lives of others, in the Bible, can also dispel the fears. God is good. God is sovereign. God is bigger.
This not new news. Ah, it is so old. Yet can seem so tedious and so basic that often times I forget its power. Then once I remember I feel shame and guilt that I forgot, neglected the tools I have been given. I can even allow that shame to fester & distract me. But that very shame is a lie. God does NOT scoff* at a heart that has submitted, a mind that is fighting against the lies. No!
With all my heart I hope, that as I go through life, faithfully falling on these verses & truths in times of fear, that it will become more automatic. My natural process instead of my current process. (Lie, fear, escalation, emotionally falling apart, remembering God, speaking His truths, turning them into a mantra in my head, & embracing the subsequent peace.)
Perhaps this peace process is similar to making a candle. Dipping a wick into hot melted wax, pulling it up to let it dry then dipping it back again. Over and over and over and over and over and...ha you get the picture. Slowly building bayer after layer of protection. The wick being more and more protected. Not that I will ever on this earth be immune to the lies & the fear I can be hit with. A candle can be melted or cut right to the core. But after years of practice I hope that my first response will be faith and trust instead of panic & fear.
That being said...I desperately need to go study my Bible! Get some new tools in this place!
My heart and prayers with you all. We can do this, helping each other & we will meet with success because of Who we lean upon.
"A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." Ecclesiastes 4:12
*
Deuteronomy 31:6
Jeremiah 29:11-12
Matthew 5:3-12
1 Corinthians 1:27
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